• 14 years old: I'm young but I know what I want. This isn't that hard, I'm all grown up already and have everything figured out.
  • 17 years old: Well, this is a little harder than I thought. School is almost ending. What am I going to do with my life?
  • 21 years old: What the fuck is going on? Where are my socks?
  • 33 years old: *sips coffee* One wrong move and this could all go down in flames. Jesus Christ.

lesbolution:

me: i have depression

person: *suddenly becomes mental health expert, nutritionist, spiritual guide* why dont u try yoga why dont u eat lots of fruit maybe u should exercise have u tried keeping a journal have u tried yoga have u tried meditation have u tried sitting in the sun have u tried patting a dog have u tried exercise yoga in the fruit sun yoga yoga

dont forget music, have u tried music why dont u go to church and pray about it u should join a gym have u tried running

no one ever says Tumblr. But weirdly it does help, a little. 

(via breanieswordvomit)

I understand it better each time I complete another run-through viewing of the series. But, I don’t agree with the masses that Rory should have “ended up” with Jess. At series’ end, Rory was 22 years old. 22!!!!! More likely, she didn’t end up with ANY of the 3 boyfriends she had in the show, because she was an ambitious young woman on the go who was only TWENTY TWO. 
I like to think she didn’t meet her final boyfriend in Stars Hollow, but was yet to meet him someday.

I understand it better each time I complete another run-through viewing of the series. But, I don’t agree with the masses that Rory should have “ended up” with Jess. At series’ end, Rory was 22 years old. 22!!!!! More likely, she didn’t end up with ANY of the 3 boyfriends she had in the show, because she was an ambitious young woman on the go who was only TWENTY TWO. 

I like to think she didn’t meet her final boyfriend in Stars Hollow, but was yet to meet him someday.

His Exes

My boyfriend is still friends with his 2 major ex-girlfriends. It’s not a new thing but it’s really starting to bother me more than before. I’m not really sure why. In my mind, it doesn’t make sense, because I am NOT friends with any of my old exes. Like at all. We broke up amicably most of them, but I definitely have no idea what they are up to, nor can I remember the last time I spoke to them.

He has gone out of his way to squeeze in a visit when one of them had traveled into town, even though it was tech week for a play and he was extremely busy. His reason was “I’m a nice person, if someone asks to see me, I’m going to see them.” Every year on his birthday (or at least for the last 3 that I’ve been with him for), she digs up an old photo of the two of them from when they were dating and makes it into a Happy Birthday Facebook post on his wall.

He also Skypes with another one maybe once or twice a year to catch up.

Strangely, he has also said that “if you and I get married someday, I would want to invite them. They’re my friends.”

I guess I’m set off recently because they texted him and posted old pictures on his Facebook for his birthday and it made me very jealous and suspicious. It’s hard for me to understand, because I don’t maintain any analogous relationships like that with any of my exes.

I feel like I know the answer already, but maybe I’m wrong… Is that normal, to stay good friends with all of them like that?

Today in Ways Catholic School Fucked Me Up

Realized while leaving therapy today and hearing Nirvana’s “On A Plain” come up on the radio (that’s the one with the refrain that goes, I love myself, better than you, I know it’s wrong, so what should I do?) that one of the mantras in Catholic grade school may have had a hand in my poor self-image. 

Put others before yourself. 

The concept of being selfless. Like Jesus. Pair this with Catholic guilt, and voila! Yes, little me, others are more important than you, more deserving of love than you, and more worthy than you. They belong ahead of you.

It’s hard to fix stuff like this when the seeds were planted and ingrained decades ago. 

WHEN MY FRIEND MAKES A LAST-NAMES-MASHUP WEDDING HASHTAG
It’s like a vanity license plate. I THINK I know what you’re trying to say? But it’s kitschy and annoyingly self-important. #calawongwedding #ilatillawedding #cribbgenwedding #ettletufiwedding #wtf
Am I the only one who doesn’t find these cute?

WHEN MY FRIEND MAKES A LAST-NAMES-MASHUP WEDDING HASHTAG

It’s like a vanity license plate. I THINK I know what you’re trying to say? But it’s kitschy and annoyingly self-important. #calawongwedding #ilatillawedding #cribbgenwedding #ettletufiwedding #wtf

Am I the only one who doesn’t find these cute?

robothugscomic:

New Comic!

TRIGGER WARNING: This comic discusses harassment, sexism, rape culture, and toxic attitudes towards women and femmefolk. It includes examples of slurs, harassment, and quotes from sexual offenders. 

*** if I need to add more tags to stuff like this just message me and I will, it’s no trouble at all***

This is the longest comic I’ve ever done and it’s a monster and it took me forever and I never want to draw again. 

Ok, that’s not true. 

I used to take a certain route fairly frequently, a couple of times a week. And there were these two guys who were almost always hanging around on the sidewalk, and they’d always talk at me:

"Hey, red!"

"Good seeing you again"

"Looking good, red!"

(I had red hair back then)

And I thought I didn’t care so much, but then I found myself altering my route, or feeling stressed, knowing I’d likely encounter them again. 

I took the same route with a guy once, and they were there, and they said nothing. But next time I was alone, it started again, and that said it all. 

Fuck those guys. It’s my sidewalk too. 

CITATIONS:

1: Amy Poehler “I don’t fucking care if you like it”

2: Quotes from sexual offenders from… (I read through this shit and it’s terrible awful terrible stuff)

 - Interview in “Rapists’ accounts of their motivations, levels of premeditation and target choices: Some Trinidadian and Tobagonian data”

 - Reddit thread, 2012

 - “Rapist files” - a book

3: Bystander Intervention

"Men are our greatest allies in ending casual sexism and harassment! We believe in you!"

Data: May I ask a personal favour?
Worf: Yes.

(via foulmouthedliberty)

How many times has that nurse saved that man’s life today?
Overheard the doctors at work talking about me. Put my very busy, stressful day into perspective and makes me feel like I what I do is worth something.
A feminist, fake-Asian (adopted by white people) from Chicago living in SF and practicing oncology nursing while I serial monogamize my love life. That's me.

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